EMOTIONAL HEALING...2nd page.

Remembering "the onion", those  emotional and mental defenses formed out of necessity in our early years, without intervention along the way, have now become an integral part of our personalities.   Basically who we truly are hides behind "the masks we wear".

SOME EXAMPLES OF "THE MASKS WE WEAR

"the good girl".

"the manipulator"

"the controller"

"the organizer"

"the slut"

"the victim"

"the abuser"

"the misunderstood one"

"the capable one"

"the dumb one"

"the clever one"

"the happy one"

As we go through life hiding our true selves behind these masks it is possible to totally lose sight of who we really are.   I'm sure we have all had days when we have been able to say, "I just don't feel like myself today".

We are not aware of most of the masks we wear nor are we aware why we wear them.......as a result we go through life  unconsciously.

Once we are able to identify the masks we wear, we are taking a step toward "conscious living".

Complete the following and begin your journey on a path to discover........."WHO I REALLY AM"

please complete the following honestly...it is for your eyes only.

I am...................................................................................................

The main thing about me is.............................................................

I always.............................................................................................

I feel most like me when...................................................................

What I like most about a person is..................................................

I will be..............................................................................................

I get angry when................................................................................

I feel happiest when..........................................................................

I believe in.........................................................................................

One thing I want to accomplish is...................................................

What I like most about myself is.......................................................

I hate it when.....................................................................................

I was....................................................................................................

I feel least like me when...................................................................

If you really knew me........................................................................

I feel weakest when...........................................................................

When I feel angry I...........................................................................

On a rainy day I like to.....................................................................

I feel good when I remember.............................................................

When I'm alone I feel........................................................................

Most of all I really want....................................................................

I was the type of child who...............................................................

One thing I'd like to change about myself is...................................

I feel strongest when.........................................................................

On a beautiful  day I like to.............................................................

My favourite pastime is....................................................................

When I feel happy I like to..............................................................

If my relationship with ..................were to end...............................

My child within is.............................................................................

I pretend to be ...................................................................................

Most people don't know that I..........................................................

I give the impression of.....................................................................

The mask I wear is............................................................................

On the surface I am.........................................................................

The game I play is............................................................................

I hide behind......................................................................................

The clothes I wear indicate...............................................................

The car I drive shows that.................................................................

My job or profession shows others that............................................

The real me hides under...................................................................

How long I've been pretending is......................................................

How often I pretend is.......................................................................

THAT COMPLETES PART ONE

PART TWO:   This part includes finding a safe person who you trust; one who will keep a confidence.  Tell them in your own words - - - not necessarily what you wrote in part one, although it's okay to refer to it at ny time - - -

first who you really are

                           (take as much time as you need)

The "Who I Really Am" exercise may have brought some of the masks you wear into your awareness...............

                      and on the healing path

an equation to remember is:

     awareness + acceptance+ action = CHANGE

And now let's discuss "ACCEPTANCE"....this is the hard part.

What happens inside of you if you try to accept that you are hiding behind the masks you wear?

What happens to most of us is we create RESISTANCE.

Let's talk about Resistance.........

How do we resist?

Are we able to recognize that resistance impedes acceptance and that without acceptance we prevent ourselves from taking the necessary action to implement the "CHANGE" in our lives that we truly want and desire?

"AFFIRMATION"

         "All is well in my world.  I give myself permission to love myself for who  I am.  I give myself permission to accept the masks that I wear.  In my heart I know my true "self" is safe behind the masks I wear.  When I feel ready I will blossom like the rose.  I will be aware when I am choosing to put on a mask because this will be by choice rather than an unconscious pattern I gratefully, ingeniously, learned as a child. 

                            "All is well in my world."

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